Comments for What's Your Name, Mommy?

Comment on Out Damn…Spot? by Gina

Gina — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 04:55:10 +0000

It’s way cool that you have a box containing yarn and lamb’s wool. I walked by a person knitting at a coffee shop today and I thought to myself that I have got to learn how to knit.

And one of the reasons I love the rare occasions I am alone in my house is that I can sing at top volume. Bliss.

Comment on Disoriented by Jen

Jen — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 23:58:30 +0000

the guilt. yes.
and the tug too.

so glad it is over.

Comment on Disoriented by Gina

Gina — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 05:32:30 +0000

Wow. That’s a lot to mentally handle. And I really don’t know how you do it with two kids…except I know that you have to, so you do. I always find the emotional tug between the two kids needs so difficult and in your case it must be very hard to manage one who is sick and the other who is still so little.

After this is all over, you guys deserve a nice family vacation somewhere.

Comment on Disoriented by Jennifer

Jennifer — Sun, 04 Oct 2009 11:23:12 +0000

That’s really scary about the other boy that was killed.

I remember when both my girls went through their very routine surgeries (both hernias that were in urgent need of repair otherwise things could have gotten bad), we stayed in the PICU because of their age.

I was thankful that we were only there for a few days, that what they had was minor compared to what these other children were going through. I looked at another child and wondered why they were there. I wondered if they were battling something terrible, or maybe it was something simple. Routine. It made me very thankful to take my kids home, to know that they were healthy. But I also felt guilty.

Comment on 6 Days by Jen

Jen — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 19:58:37 +0000

The support system is huge, Gina. I’m glad to hear that you have people there to pick you up–it’s easy to forget when you’re in the throes of misery and fear about the misery.

Comment on 6 Days by Gina

Gina — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 04:39:37 +0000

I hope the rest of the time passes as quickly as possible for you (and the family).

I have similar fears of an imminent breakdown (although for very different reasons) and one thing I have come to accept recently is that much as I don’t want to happen – I might still just have one [a breakdown] one of these days. But I now have a much better support system in place (husband, in-laws, therapist, friend) to help me through it if it does. That is a huge comfort to me – knowing that I can fall and there will be someone there to help pick me up.

Comment on 9 days by Jennifer

Jennifer — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 11:26:30 +0000

You have every right to feel overwhelmed and forget shit.

You’ve got a lot on your plate.

While you’re running around taking care of everything and everyone else, remember to take some time for yourself?!

Comment on Because I like charts by Jen

Jen — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 13:14:46 +0000

It is a 36 year old decision.
I’m still not debating reproductive rights, no matter how many names you call me.

Comment on Because I like charts by Jonathan

Jonathan — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 23:30:33 +0000

I completely, unequivocally, wholeheartedly disagree with you. In fact, I get just as emotional and intolerant towards you as you do of me. You say the questions is a matter of choice. I say the question is a matter of life. With all that we know today about life, a fetus, it’s development and growth, how could any half-way educated person say that a ruling that took place 35 years ago should stand regardless of any scientific discovery since that ruling? It makes no sense to me that you believe this is an open and shut case, we’re talking about LIFE! Not economics, not healthcare, LIFE! I’m not asking you to admit that a fetus deserves all the rights and privileges of a “born” citizen; I’m asking you to CONSIDER that it’s possible and that the facts of both sides should be debated openly, not put to rest based on a 35 year old decision. One day, we’ll look back on this issue, just as we do with civil rights and the womens suffrage movement, and wonder how ignorant, uneducated morons like you ever believed what you believe. I just hope that day comes sooner rather than later for the sake of the millions being murdered.

Comment on Feeling by Gina

Gina — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 07:21:55 +0000

It make perfect sense.

When I was pregnant with Henry we had two anomlous test results that indicated the potential for some significant genetic problems. Thankfully, he is 100% perfect, however, we didn’t know that would be the result until he was born. To say that I had an anxious pregnancy is a understatement. But I could not talk about it to anyone. One of the reasons I couldn’t talk about it was because I didn’t know how I felt about it and until I did, I couldn’t deal with explaining things to people. I never did figure it out and it is now, five months into Henry’s life that I am processing all those horrible emotions. We told no one – not even our parents – what was going on and it was hard but it was I needed to do. I just needed to hug Thomas, bake my bread, and bury my head in the sand a bit.

Do what you need to do for now and you can deal with the rest later. I wish you and your family peace.